Why are girls on dating sites so ugly?

It is a well known fact that the dating agencies and dating site administrators stack the deck on the Fugly side. They load up lots of images of ugly women (and men too) so that people will feel more comfortable loading up their own Fugly picture into the network. If everyone in the network looked like Brad Pitt, your average Joe Blow Dork would not feel comfortable loading up their picture there.

General exception for this entire post and conversation when talking about gay dating sites. That’s where all the hot people are. If you are hoping to find a hot girl, you need to go load up your profile on a gay dating website. The girls there know that it takes a real man to create a profile on gay dating website. I’m married so I can’t do it myself, but let us know how it goes if you give this a try. ;)

The ending line, was too funny! Get offline and meet them in person! But where, I can’t imagine getting back into the dating scene. I wouldn’t know where to begin, so Holy Carp – Good luck !

lol

I understand. Its very important to keep your ‘end’ ‘well’. I guess I just thought you might be willing to take ONE for posteriority.

I agree with you! I am no prize myself – but I would really get ticked off when I was on those dating sites! Seemed like EVERY guy was 600lbs overweight and bald. I would hate to “see” what the hell was in my inbox. Then, if the guy was good lookin – he was horrible at spelling! It was a nightmare.
I did find a few genuine guys there though. But only as a friend type of relationship… I still even talk to a few to this day.

@ca Marks: I must ponder where all the good, decent single women hang out though. Maybe the local nudie bar?

:-D

LOL. too funny. I would always get the “no picture” or the fake picture thing. I hated that!

Linc:

I think you secretly have a fetish for checking these ugly pictures out. ;)

Right… and the bogeyman’s under your bed too, bro.

@Sicarii: Nahhhh, he’s hiding in my fridge. :-D

@Casey: Before you even think about it, just remember: I know where you live.

@Woobie: I think searches on dating sites need to include an “ugly filter” as well. :-D

Of course, that would probably screen out all the gorgeous women who think they’re ugly, just the kind of women I might be interested in. The ones that KNOW they’re beautiful are dangerously evil and are to be avoided at all costs.

That’s weird, because usually it’s just the opposite for online dating, where you’re everything BUT yourself. I think last I had a profile on a dating site I said I was a corporate executive making a 7 digit salary who was constantly mistaken for George Clooney.

I’m kidding. Sort of. :-D

I’m sorry you got dumped like that though. Men really are stupid.

BTW, why did you have to go ruin my argument like that by being so pretty?

Damned woman.

You’re right, the right guy would rightly treat you as right as rain. :-D

Since I write about my job in a less than flattering manner on occasion, I have to be careful not to reveal too much about myself on this blog. I might upload a silhouette of myself to intrigue people even more, but we’ll see. Women do seem to like men who are shrouded in mystery after all.

what is “ugly”???
i get really confused about all this ‘ugly’ stuff!
NOBODY ever seems to know the answer, yet call people ‘ugly’.
i mean… is it regarding facial features – what are these facial features that determine if someone is ‘ugly’?
because, if i’m going to consider going on a dating site, i sure don’t want to if i’m to be looked upon as ‘ugly’. or else, what’s the point!!!
please someone, do tell what men would find repulsive about a females face, so that if i have any similarities, i will not bother making poor guy’s feel sick, by showing my picture at any time.
- anne :-)

thankyou for your answer mr adams.
please, you have written an article on this page regarding ‘uglyness’, so… i would like to know what you think is ugly. this would help me.
for example: is it a bad complexion or a large nose or squinty eyes, etc etc etc???
what i am looking for is a general idea.
such as, your friend may see beyonce as looking amazing but you prefer marylin monroe. putting individual taste aside – obviously, they are BOTH absolutely fantastic and not one is ‘ugly’ to either one of you who prefers the other.
that is why i need to know what truly is NOT PRETTY at all.
please help!!
>anne :-)

First, I have tried the online thing and it is just the opposite, I am an attractive girl from NYC and currently live in Cheyenne Wyoming. enough said. I get attention from butt ugly old men. I am in my forties and I am in shape and good looking. I seem to get the nasty, fat disgusting guys who think that they can bag a good looking girl. I am in Cheyenne and the men here are nasty. I am used to NY men, clean cut and well groomed. Also men here date the kinds of women that men in NY would not touch with a ten foot pole. Overweight, chain smoking alcoholics skanks with 3 and 4 kids with 3 and 4 different men. It is hard to meet people. In NY I never had issues with meeting men, here it is a nightmare. The dating sites are a horror and that is why I stopped. I can do better in my dreams.

thankyou for your replies mr adams.
sadly though, according to evidence, if a female’s looks isn’t appealing – no guy’s will even choose to date her in the first place. even if there is a chance that they could get on or end up falling in love!!
that is the whole point see, that males will have to find a female physically attractive before ANYTHING else.
hence, why i wanted to know specifically what was truly “ugly” according to majority of men like yourself.
the ‘rating photos’ is a good idea. only problem there is, unless you look really bad like quasimodo or really good like angelina jolie, you mainly get just an average rating. which again, doesn’t give you a decisive enough opinion of your attractiveness or unattractiveness.
please, if possible, could a likkul, itsy, teeny list be squeezed out of what is completely not pretty???!!!
- anne :-)

I’ll add to that. Morbidly obese women are ugly. I’m not talking about chunky…I’m talking about I see your butt or pelvis way before I see you…and you have jowls hanging down from your jaws…ugly.
And to that point, the only way to get that fat, without a major medical problem, which should be treated, is to not take care of yourself…which is also ugly. Women who don’t both to do their hair, moisturize their face, put on at least a little makeup…they’re ugly too, on principle. They may be the most beautiful woman in the world if they’d tame that nappy hair, and wear something besides old discolored sweatpants and a tshirt. But they’re ugly because they don’t take some pride in their appearance.

@Anne: If by complimentary, you mean photoshopped or fake…then sure.

…cause all the pretty ones are taken. you are funny. i don’t photograph well at all. i look like crap on my best day, my smile does whatever it wants, so i don’t get too many pictures taken…they lie like rugs!! lol

I don’t believe you. I shall need to see pictures for proof of this. Please send them to my email at your earliest convenience so that I can evaluate your claims.

I just realized I have a couple spelling errors in my post above. I guess frustration clouds the mind.

Man that is hysterical. Actually in the country I live in the girls on online sites are pretty hot. But still not as good as the ones everywhere else.

I hate women with blonde hair. It’s just an ugly color.

Since when, ya lying whore! I specifically remember you drooling over a midget, diseased ridden blonde not more than two weeks ago.

Ok, I can understand Air Supply, but Chicago, Peter Cetera? I refuse to accept that a song like Glory of Love can only attract the Ug-sters.

I agree with lisa, that kind of music is definitely dweeb bait

Lincoln, also most of the skanks here are blonde so you better rethink Cheyenne.

here’s a solution don’t do internet dating. there are alot of disonest people out there who will lie. if you want to meet new people then just get out more.

Internet dating sucks! You are hilarious! I enjoyed reading this.

If you want to meet real Women – go to Europe…

Most American Women are bottom of the barrel trash because that’s how they are brought up. They have no values… Do not make good wives… Turn into fat, useless cows eventually..

They don’t hold a candle to the ladies you can meet in say Eastern Europe for example. I am part Ukrainian and would never risk marrying an American Woman.

Of course there’s always exceptions.. but for the most part…. meh… American women suck.

Let’s not oversimplify with the whole one-women-fits-all nonsense. Note how different men have different tastes. Various men point to various examples of what they think is a beautiful women, to which I usually think “Really? Her? She’s a homely skank.” What’s at work? Well, aside from the fact that men have varying tastes, men also have varying abilities of discernment. Just look at the men of Jersey Shore and the women they choose. Not all men have equal taste. So let’s dispense with the stupid notion that men flock to one women. No such competition exists. It’s a media fabrication. While several men might find the same woman attractive, there is no such thing as universal appeal.

This is why all of these beauty studies are absolute garbage. All this talk about symmetry and wait to hip ratio. Really? So you’re into symmetrical unibrows? Oh, fat legs are okay as long as the hip to waist ratio is in tact? Nonsense. While those are bare minimum, they are not sufficient.

Additionally, women need to stop complaing about unattainable or unrealistic body image. It’s an idiotic statement. It lays bare the real motivations, which is that women want to lower the maximum in order to fancy themselves beautiful. It’s usually the ugly, or the deluded, that complain about it. On the one hand, they dismiss physical beauty (because they don’t feel they possess it, not because they don’t actually want it). On the other hand, they try to destroy it in order to feel better about themselves. Yes, magazines photoshop all the time, which means the people in the magazines aren’t as beautiful as they appear on the covers. But show business doesn’t necessarily select the most beautiful women. The requirement for them to be beautiful is later imposed on them. But in real life, they are nothing of the sort much of the time.

And another thing about “unrealistic body image”. What the hell does that even mean?? If you’re born a short, stocky woman, that’s what your body is. There’s nothing you can do to change it. Unrealistic. Pffft. That’s like having the law of gravity complain about the law of entropy being “unrealistic”. A has nothing to do with B! If you’re face is busted and your figure is ugly (assuming even the most intense physical training and diet and whatever else can help), then you’re not beautiful! Don’t pull women down out of jealousy! What is there secret goal? To marry an awesome guy? Well, who says all men have equal tastes? There do exist great men with terrible aesthetic taste, so bank on them, you human oxen. Either that, or join a convent. It’s one of the many wonderful things the Church got right.

Now about dating sites. Think about it. Let’s be honest: most women are unattractive, or downright ugly. Even relatively speaking, most women don’t appeal to most men, unless the guy is a total needy flake who’ll take anything (and newsflash, ugly women aren’t “easier”

This isn’t to say anything goes.

Hmm, I’m on an online dating site now and while I see many attractive women, I noticed that the men are just the opposite. And the men who are just average-looking think they are so great-looking they deserve a model-type!

I’m 19, 171cm, 59kg, long wavy brunette, green eyes, leggy, well groomed, worked as a night club bartender, and am regularly hit on at clubs. I’ve been online dating for a year — meeting 10-13 men and only being rejected once because I “wouldn’t look good blonde.”

Eyeroll.

Anyway, when I first signed up for Okcupid, I had just moved towns and wanted to meet some people. Within 2 days, I met someone and started dating him after a few hookups. He was also clean, well groomed, tall, handsome and just my type.

Needless to say I wasn’t faithful and it only lasted 11 months. There wasn’t much wrong with him.

The next man I would have loved to have dated, but he lives too far for me to bother.

Those two are the only ones worth mentioning that I have met in RL.

We’re not all ugly. Some of us have a niche we need seen to, and our towns can’t provide it. I live in a small town and look, specifically for tall, dark, handsome, stubble, older (27-34 years old), business man, animal lover, and doesn’t mind the fact I drive an old beat up pickup truck.

Not to mention it’s one hell of an ego boost.

More like the Cow and leave out the girl! The women here are all fat chain smoking alcoholics and yes they are easy. A cheese burger happy meal and a six pack would be plenty of you want to bag one of these nasty females.