It is a well known fact that the dating agencies and dating site administrators stack the deck on the Fugly side. They load up lots of images of ugly women (and men too) so that people will feel more comfortable loading up their own Fugly picture into the network. If everyone in the network looked like Brad Pitt, your average Joe Blow Dork would not feel comfortable loading up their picture there.

General exception for this entire post and conversation when talking about gay dating sites. That’s where all the hot people are. If you are hoping to find a hot girl, you need to go load up your profile on a gay dating website. The girls there know that it takes a real man to create a profile on gay dating website. I’m married so I can’t do it myself, but let us know how it goes if you give this a try.

@brett: That can’t possibly end well for me.

The ending line, was too funny! Get offline and meet them in person! But where, I can’t imagine getting back into the dating scene. I wouldn’t know where to begin, so Holy Carp - Good luck !

Sue: Oy, I’m definitely gonna need it.

lol

I understand. Its very important to keep your ‘end’ ‘well’. I guess I just thought you might be willing to take ONE for posteriority.

I actually know someone who got listed on a bunch of gay sites as a result of some guys pulling a prank on him. Don’t remember if he attracted a sea of babes as a result, but I do remember much violence and chaos ensued when he found out.

I agree with you! I am no prize myself - but I would really get ticked off when I was on those dating sites! Seemed like EVERY guy was 600lbs overweight and bald. I would hate to “see” what the hell was in my inbox. Then, if the guy was good lookin - he was horrible at spelling! It was a nightmare.
I did find a few genuine guys there though. But only as a friend type of relationship… I still even talk to a few to this day.

Oh please tell me you are not doing the online dating thing! Save yourself and get out of there now, while you can!!! At least the fugly women are honest and they don’t post some picture of them from 20 years ago or a total fake picture altogether. HA!

@ca Marks: I must ponder where all the good, decent single women hang out though. Maybe the local nudie bar?

@Simple: At least you were able to get a few friendships out of it. All I get are restraining orders.

LOL. too funny. I would always get the “no picture” or the fake picture thing. I hated that!

@Simple: Maybe they’re shy! I know I’d be if a hottie like you were surfing my profile page.

Oh there I go being a flirt again.

Linc:

I think you secretly have a fetish for checking these ugly pictures out.

It’s not a fetish. These pictures have a way of following me around the net. They’re everywhere!!!

Right… and the bogeyman’s under your bed too, bro.

@lincoln: I actually know someone who got listed on a bunch of gay sites as a result of some guys pulling a prank on him. Don’t remember if he attracted a sea of babes as a result, but I do remember much violence and chaos ensued when he found out.
…what a great idea…let me know if any girls start contacting you soon.

@Sicarii: Nahhhh, he’s hiding in my fridge.

@Casey: Before you even think about it, just remember: I know where you live.

You are so bashing my niche! hahaha
Lemme turn it around. Why do YOU spend time one dating sites?
XD
Some people live on the net more often than the real world, it’s just normal that if that particular need arises, the net is where they first look for it. I’m talking about the need for company.

Some pretty girls are on dating sites, you just don’t know how to optimize your search lol.

@Woobie: I think searches on dating sites need to include an “ugly filter” as well.

Of course, that would probably screen out all the gorgeous women who think they’re ugly, just the kind of women I might be interested in. The ones that KNOW they’re beautiful are dangerously evil and are to be avoided at all costs.

I am offended.

I have personally used the dating sites lots of times in the past, and I don’t think I’m ugly. I get a decent amount of attention from guys in “real life” but to tell you the truth, I prefer online dating. Why? Because I feel like I can be myself. I can geek out just like I do in the other areas of my life. I’m a blogger, after all. Also, by getting to know guys online first, I can be a little more convinced that I’m meeting someone who is interested in me for my mind. I take pride in the fact that I’m an intelligent, and computer savvy girl. And I’d like a guy who can appreciate that.

I did my share of going to clubs and bars in my younger years, and I have absolutely no interest in doing that any longer. Online dating is a good alternative.

That being said, maybe it isn’t as good as I had hoped. I met my last boyfriend via my blog. It went very well for 10 months, and then he suddenly got cold feet and dumped me for no reason. It seriously broke my heart. That was almost a year ago. Since that time, I’ve stayed away from the online dating sites. I figure that I’ll meet a guy when the time is right.

Why do men have to be such jerks?

Btw, I found your blog through Entrecard and just couldn’t resist visiting when I saw that you were looking for Miss Right.

I hope you have a great night!

That’s weird, because usually it’s just the opposite for online dating, where you’re everything BUT yourself. I think last I had a profile on a dating site I said I was a corporate executive making a 7 digit salary who was constantly mistaken for George Clooney.

I’m kidding. Sort of.

I’m sorry you got dumped like that though. Men really are stupid.

BTW, why did you have to go ruin my argument like that by being so pretty?

Damned woman.

Haha! So now I know who to avoid when I see you on the dating sites! Oh wait. Nevermind. All the men on those dating sites are corporate executives with 7 digit salaries, and are constantly mistaken for George Clooney.

And thanks for the kind words. Though I was heartbroken when it happened, I’ve had a year to recover from the breakup. And I now see that he wasn’t the right guy anyway. The right guy wouldn’t treat me like that.

Awww…thank you for saying I’m pretty. Why don’t I see any photos of you on this blog?

Sorry to go and ruin your argument.

You’re right, the right guy would rightly treat you as right as rain.

Since I write about my job in a less than flattering manner on occasion, I have to be careful not to reveal too much about myself on this blog. I might upload a silhouette of myself to intrigue people even more, but we’ll see. Women do seem to like men who are shrouded in mystery after all.

You are definitely shrouded in mystery.

what is “ugly”???
i get really confused about all this ‘ugly’ stuff!
NOBODY ever seems to know the answer, yet call people ‘ugly’.
i mean… is it regarding facial features - what are these facial features that determine if someone is ‘ugly’?
because, if i’m going to consider going on a dating site, i sure don’t want to if i’m to be looked upon as ‘ugly’. or else, what’s the point!!!
please someone, do tell what men would find repulsive about a females face, so that if i have any similarities, i will not bother making poor guy’s feel sick, by showing my picture at any time.
- anne

Anne, no one can give you an answer here because it’s different for everybody. While a friend of mine might think some Hollywood celebrity looks super hot, I on the other hand might think she looks like froggy dung, and vice versa. Beauty really s in the eye of the beholder.

thankyou for your answer mr adams.
please, you have written an article on this page regarding ‘uglyness’, so… i would like to know what you think is ugly. this would help me.
for example: is it a bad complexion or a large nose or squinty eyes, etc etc etc???
what i am looking for is a general idea.
such as, your friend may see beyonce as looking amazing but you prefer marylin monroe. putting individual taste aside - obviously, they are BOTH absolutely fantastic and not one is ‘ugly’ to either one of you who prefers the other.
that is why i need to know what truly is NOT PRETTY at all.
please help!!
>anne

Bad complexion might be a turn off, but the problem with the Internet is that it doesn’t provide a setting where you can get to know someone first, so that even if their looks turn you off initially, you may still end up falling in love with them as you get to know them better.

If you want to see how a picture of you might go over you could try anonymously using a “rate my looks” site such as ratingmylooks.com and see how people rate you. Kinda shallow, but an interesting social experiment nonetheless.

First, I have tried the online thing and it is just the opposite, I am an attractive girl from NYC and currently live in Cheyenne Wyoming. enough said. I get attention from butt ugly old men. I am in my forties and I am in shape and good looking. I seem to get the nasty, fat disgusting guys who think that they can bag a good looking girl. I am in Cheyenne and the men here are nasty. I am used to NY men, clean cut and well groomed. Also men here date the kinds of women that men in NY would not touch with a ten foot pole. Overweight, chain smoking alcoholics skanks with 3 and 4 kids with 3 and 4 different men. It is hard to meet people. In NY I never had issues with meeting men, here it is a nightmare. The dating sites are a horror and that is why I stopped. I can do better in my dreams.

@Cynthia: That’s wild, because I live in NY and thought it was just the opposite: the guys here are weenie dweebs and all the while I’m thinking in a place like Wyoming they’d be much more civilized. Who knew?

How are the girls at least? If they’re like cowgirl super hotties maybe we should switch: you come back and live here and I’ll go there.