Whoever said women fall quickly in love was smoking serious crack

Great sense of humor. I TOTALLY relate to your woman plight. What movie is that from?

Beauty is fleeting and charm deceitful but an excellent woman who can find?

awww you guys! Girls get like that because of the men they’be been with in the past! Don’t you think we want the same things?

I want nothing more than to find some one I can come home to every night and just snuggle with. Some one that I connect with on every level.

But we get taken advantage of so much! Don’t ever look at an attractive girl and think she must have it soo great. Behind that pretty face are years of guys seeing her for just that, a pretty face, wanting it conquer it, and leaving her just as soon as they win her heart to move on to the next challenge.

It never fails, you start to fall for a guy and that’s the point they decide to leave. Had they left a day before it wouldn’t hurt so bad, but it’s ALWAYS right after you decide that they’re worth you’re heart.

Then you’ve got days of crying, weeks of feeling ugly and unwanted and months of trying to get used to the fact that no one wants you. How can you not grow hard after going through that emotional roller coaster time and time again!? It’s self protection.

I have known women to grow SO bitter from living life like this for years. You have 2 choices as a girl who’s been hurt, become cold and hard to protect yourself from anymore pain, turning away anyone you think you might be able to fall for because there’s a big possibility they’ll end up hurting you again, or 2, deal with the pain, count your losses and wear your heart on your sleeve yet again the next time in case you happen to find your fairy tale guy.

It’s a tough decision. Personally, I think finding that some one is the most amazing thing that could ever happen to anyone in this life. It’s what makes life worth living. I’ve been hurt and stepped on and used more times than I can count, but I’m leaving myself open for the next one that comes along, just for the off chance, that maybe, just maybe, he’ll be the end to all my loneliness.

But doing that takes more strength than growing hard and calloused. It’s hard and it’s a lonely, long, impatient wait. But I have faith that it WILL be worth it in the end. It has to be.

So don’t blame us gals. We’re hurting just like you. It’s because of you we’re hurting, and it’s because of us that you’re hurting. Fortunate are those who manage to break out of that vicious cycle.

They have already been made to her, by guys who only wanted to get in her pants.

with all good wishes

But for most guys, they’re perfectly willing to traverse this minefield as long as it gets them the BOOTY. The acquisition of booty has therefore become the driving force of their existence.

you’ve answered your own question. you may thank your brothers, and the sexual revolution, for your plight.

it won’t be out in the open you’ll find your love.

I came upon this post a few months after it was posted so the conversation about it seens to be dead, but I thought I’d post a reply just for Lincoln Adams and anyone, who like me, happens upon it.

I find it amazing that a man who can write so elegantly about what stonehearted, manipulative, witches women can be would be so easily taken in by Holly. “awww you guys!” could she have started with a more condescending intro? And why not she has nothing but contempt for you! Let me ask you a question…

If women really did become coldhearted and manipulative because of their past relationships with men, shouldn’t you have run into some women, or girls, somewhere who weren’t cold hearted and manipulative? Think about it. If girls became cold through experience then you would expect that back in junior high you would have known masses of sweet, caring girls who only wanted to love and be loved by a decent guy. In high school they would become more jaded, in college more so. You could watch as women became colder and colder as the years past. Do you remember even one girl from junior high like that? No! And neither does any other man on Earth! Because when you, I or any other man thinks back to junior high, hell even elementary school, all any of us can remember is the same manipulative bitches only smaller. How can every woman become jaded by relationships before they’ve even had relationships?

Does Holly know she’s full of crap? Of course she does! She knows she and other women aren’t that way because of their past. She knows she was that way before she ever had a relationship, but she read your post and thought, “here’s a guy who’s hurting from how he’s been treated by women. He’s hurting because he cares about what they do or say. I think I’ll use that to have some fun…” She played two of the oldest woman games on you. 1) The condescending wise woman game (remember the “awww you guys!”): You as a man can’t possibly understand the depth of women and she, as the wise woman, must reveal the truth to you. 2) The hurt little girl: She’s really just sweet and innocent in a world of horrible men and needs you compassion and understanding (with nothing in return of course).

Buddy, you fell for it hook line and sinker! After her post, a thread that started as a rant about women turned into you falling over yourself to apologize to Holly and wishing “Death and destruction to my horndog brothers for ruining my chances for true love!” And Holly, do you now what she though after reading your reply to her? One word, “FOOL.”

I’m not saying this to be mean or flame you or for any other reason than that when I was young, I was a lot like you, and, it may surprise you to know, so are most men at some point in their lives. Most men at some point long to find that perfect someone who they can love without limit and who will love them back the same way. Every guy I’ve ever known has. The problem is women aren’t built that way. They don’t have feelings like that and won’t ever have feelings like that. Women are emotionally simple. They want a guy who loosely controls them, uses them and really doesn’t give a crap. Because that guy is cool! Women never emotionally progress past high school. They’re always looking for the “cool guy.” At least to them… To any guy, that guy may be a looser, par excellence, but to a woman, a guy who won’t fall for their crap… is it! No matter how much of a looser he may be. And by the way, it doesn’t take years (or money) for them to fall for a guy like that, it just takes minutes. Oh, and women don’t reject compliments because guys have used them to get sex (women like sex by the way, it’s not a bad thing to them surprising as this may be). They reject compliments because they know what they really are, and your fawning over them just makes you look like a weak looser in their eyes.

One of my favorite lines is from the mini-series “Shogun.” A friend of Anjin-san tries to kill him. He remarks to the lady Mariko, “It is unfortunate that you can’t trust people.” She replies, “It is not unfortunate; it is just how things are. It is just one of the things that one must learn” Another of my favorite lines is, “Never try to teach a pig to dance; it wastes you time and annoys the pig!” Women are pigs! Trying to teach them to love wastes your time and annoys them. This is not unfortunate; it is just how things are and is just something you must learn!

Holly, the third oldest female game is making a personal attack when you have no reasonable argument to rebuke your adversaries all too valid claims. Contrary to what you and Mr. Adams seem to think, I didn’t personally attack you. I attacked what you said and said that you were manipulative for saying it. You are welcome to do the same to me. If you think my assessment is wrong. Tell me how. How is it that women supposedly become cold hearted because of their past relationships, and yet none of us have ever seen a woman who isn’t cold hearted even if they haven’t yet had a relationship? Hey, if you can answer that, if you’d even tried to answer that, you’d be more than justified in telling me what a jerk I was for posting. But you didn’t answer my point. You didn’t try to disprove me at all. What you did was make blanket assumptions about me and tried to post them as fact to discredit what I said. You claim that I’m bitter, I’m in pain, my life sucks, and I’m enslaved to the people who have hurt me… If that’s all true, it should be easy to disprove my claims. If I’m such a looser and you’re so insightful, it should be easy for you to use that boundless wisdom to defeat my arguments. Give it a shot… …Anything? …still waiting …No? Didn’t think so! It’s just one more female game, and I’m not impressed.

I’m also not impressed with the idea that I hurt your feelings. With all you claim you’ve suffered, do you really expect me to believe you were so easily hurt by some lazy looser with a lack of ambition who you don’t even know?

I’d like to leave everyone with one more quote. This one is from Albert Einstein, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.” This applies to physics and women. It’s not called a self fulfilling prophesy. It’s called learning from experience.