Shari, are you seeing anybody now? Of course you knew I had to ask.

This is a hard thing to endure, but I realize if I want the perfect girl, then I need to learn how to be the perfect guy first. With in reason, of course.

Don’t hold on and hope. When you get that feeling that makes you want to try to dig deep and find someone’s “hidden treasures”, that is your cue to cut and run.

I got married to someone I was sure had “potential”, that had been hurt and would need time and love to blossom. Eight years later, I realize I totally duped myself. Now I’m a biblical studies student at a Christian university and meet men every single day who possess the heart for God that I so wanted in my partner.

When you are ready to be married, turn to your Father and ask Him for your wife. Dating is, as you so fittingly put it, for Babylonians. All kidding aside, may I recommend a book called “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” by Joshua Harris? I had always known there was something wrong with dating, but it is so much a part of our culture, I still went along with it. If I am ever in a position where I need or want a husband again, I will simply ask my Father to find me one. (I know it’s not that simple, but hopefully the gist of it is clear).