It’s all about balance. For some women, they don’t find that balance until they’re in their mid-twenties or sometimes thirties. And what is clingy mushball behavior to you might be aloof to the girl you’re interested in. It’s a delicate dance, and you have to step on a lot of feet before you find the partner who can either handle the pain or move a little faster.

Man, I’m just full of metaphor today.

Poopsie, why dont you try sharing your feelings in a nonfrightening way? It’s ok to miss someone, long as you’re not sitting across the street from their work waiting for them to come out the door.

Try saying something simple like ‘I thought about you today’ or something ‘reminded me of you’. It’s sweet without being creepy. Let a girl know you like her and arent just there because no else is available. And dont expect someone else to put themself out there for you, if you cant do it for them.

Man, I’m just full of metaphor today.

Metaphor is good. I’m bigoted against similes though.

…long as you’re not sitting across the street from their work waiting for them to come out the door.

And what’s wrong with that???

Why nothing is wrong with that……if you’re a serial killer!

Seems like there ought to be a balance somewhere between contact every five minutes and no contact for weeks.

Just be honest. A healthy gal will tell you if you’re being too clingy, especially if you ask her to do so. And, if I recall correctly, my (then future) husband and I spent hours just talking to each other. When you really enjoy someone’s company and the feeling is mutual, you will respect each other enough to become aware of each other’s time demands.
Honesty requires trust and love is worth risks.

That’s the important thing, as long as we could discuss these issues like mature adults I’m sure people would find a way to meet somewhere in the middle. That seems to be too much to ask for in today’s MEEEEEE FIIIIIIIRST world.

I was just in a situation like this. Two adults meeting, and trying to start something. I started fun and slow. He swept in and carried me away. When I caught up to his speed he put the brakes on and became silenced. It is very confusing to try and figure it out other then we all carry some kind of baggage that interfers now and again. Your speed may be different from my speed and as we get older we carry that extra crap with us. We need to learn how to communicate more and listen more and yes sometimes we do want to be selfish, but we have to learn to give in also.

I love interaction, but if someone is hanging onto me too tightly, I tell them. Nicely, of course. I was once accused of being too nice to a stalker of mine.

Hey, if you figure out the balance, can you let the rest of us in on the secret?

Seriously though, find a balance you are comfortable with. If she isn’t comfortable with that level, the relationship probably wouldn’t work anyway.

Oh, one other thing…I didn’t expect you to take me THIS seriously!

Sometimes a lot has to do with the thrill of the chase. The banter (like you said the interaction). *uck the balance. We want the thrill ride. I have tried to find it in marriage and just recently in a relationship. Just kidding LOL. God that felt good. Do we really know what we want and need?

@Sabrina: You were actually nice to a stalker??

We should hook up.

@TJSharky: I just want the both of us to be equally in love, but that seems to be too much to ask for in this #%$%ing cold arse world of ours.

@Carrie: Feel better now that you’ve gotten that out?

I know what I would want, I’d want whoever I end up with to yearn for me the way I yearn for her. I want to feel like I can make enough of an impact in the world that people want to reach out to me instead of quickly forgetting I exist the minute we stop talking.

I dunno, I’m tired and rambling. I need some Red Bull.

LOL…maybe that was a little much information. It’s true, though. A friend had to help me be mean.

I’m so fed up with the whole concept of dating and marriage. I really don’t even care anymore. This culture we live in makes it seem that you HAVE to get married or there’s something wrong with you, and yet, I can’t find a decent guy to even have a conversation with sometimes. It’s very frustrating. The whole thing is getting tedious.

Wow, if you’re like this NOW, I wonder how cranky you’ll be when you’re my age?

That’s the important thing, as long as we could discuss these issues like mature adults I’m sure people would find a way to meet somewhere in the middle.

Bwahahahahahahaha!!! Fat chance of that happening.

Well I’m sure you know that you are not the only one going through the dating dance and all of it’s ups and downs.

Basically I think if you communicate with the girl a lot and you both are into each other, she welcomes it and returns it. If she thinks you are ok, not quite sure if it will go anywhere or feels there is not a lot in common or heavy attraction, she still takes the calls messages but does not answer back often or takes her time getting back to you. If she completely ignores the communication then she’s totally not interested. At least I notice I tend to do that in all 3 scenarios without realizing it. Of course if I’m really interested in someone and they don’t seem into me, it’s maddening. lol It’s just the way it goes I guess until two people feel the same about each other.

Everyone in the single dating world has this difficulty. Keep trying Linc! She’s out there.

Drives me nuts, but I always thought I was running into this generational thing where women just don’t return or demonstrate the feminine affection they used to.

Or maybe I just have bad luck.

We are out there. We really are. You just haven’t met your match yet. I feel the same way too.

I hope so, I’m starting to get old and crinkly here. Pretty soon I just won’t care anymore since I will have stopped producing testosterone.