There’s no love lost between me and mainstream Christian writers, especially those whose shoddily written books sell a bazoolion copies simply because their audience are complete morons who just vacu-suck in everything their pastor spoonfeeds them without an individual thought of their own.
But every now and then somebody comes along and says or writes something that just begs for a smackdown by yours truly. Case in point, a relatively obscure blogger named Tim Challies quotes from a book written by an even more obscure Christian author:
“One of the biggest problems in the church today is the failure of young adult men to value and pursue marriage.”
Apparently the quote is lifted from Phillips’s book, “The Masculine Mandate: God’s Calling to Men,” which is yet another book that purports to tell men how they’re supposed to behave and act using disjointed scriptural references and quotes from pop culture TV shows like Seinfeld. Or was that “Wild at Heart?”
Challies’ endorsement of this quote would typify the behavior that one finds in the modern metrosexual male. Like clones of Max Lucado, Challies and Phillips seem to me to be the kind of feminized men who write in pink notebooks and breastfeed their own children. The perpetually and nauseatingly effeminate manner in which they criticize men for every evil in the world demonstrates that “regeneration” apparently did nothing to divorce their attitude towards men from how the rest of the world perceives us. Which is, as amphibian bio-waste that needs to be neutralized from existence.
Tim Challies’s quote from Rich Phillips is ironic considering the misogynist overtones of Scripture (not that the verses are in fact misogynistic, it just appears that way) especially in Ecclesiastes. We are told that for every thousand righteous men, there is only one righteous woman in that same bunch, if even that. And Solomon would know a thing or two about that, having gone through at least 700 wives. (Ecclesiastes 7:26-29)
Phillips/Challies appear to be too numbnutted to believe that the failure of a marriage might actually involve two people instead of just the man. Indeed, it seems to me the primary perpetrators of evil in our increasingly feministic society are women, not men. The divorce courts favor women, while our laws give women special status in almost every aspect of their lives. Women can also falsely accuse men of rape and destroy their lives with absolutely no risk of consequence. The entertainment industry also constantly denigrates and insults men at every turn. How could this relentless bombardment of male bashing not seep into the thinking of even well intentioned women (including Challies)?
And they wonder why men might not value marriage anymore? Seriously?
Personally, I’ve given up on the idea of marriage or even dating. I have accepted that there is simply no single woman out there left that is worth my time and aggravation. The neurosis (teh crazies!!1), the self absorption and the utter sense of supremacy gets old after a while. Who can find a virtuous woman? Certainly not I. As a result, I have admittedly become very bitter about it, but I am slowly learning to accept that Paul was right, I am in fact better off single. Of course women who see this will say the reason I haven’t found anyone is because I’m bitter, or ugly or otherwise undesirable. They have absolved and divorced themselves of any accountability in regards to their despicable behavior whatsoever. It is ALWAYS the man’s fault. I’m single? Gotta be my fault and my fault alone. Women are but darling cherubs of light to which it is nigh on impossible for them to do any wrong. Right. And I got two bridges in Brooklyn I’d like to sell you.
Since our supposedly Christian stalwarts of the community appear completely vacuous in their analysis of what ails marriages today, I’ll try to fill in the void with my common sense approach to the matter.
Marriage is a two way street. It’s not about pleasing yourself, it’s about pleasing your spouse and doing what makes him OR her happy. Women should not go ahead of their husbands and should let him take the lead. Men in return should not treat their wives as doormats but with love and respect, and should not be afraid to make command decisions either. Each spouse should have their due affection rendered them, whether it comes in wumpsy snugglies or other things. Let the strength of one complement the weakness of the other.
See? How fricking hard was that? It certainly beats the advice of telling men they need to camp out a lot in the wilderness like that schmuck for brains John Eldredge does in his book “Wild at Heart.” Oy.
Maybe I should write a book myself.