For years I made the conscious choice to avoid watching one of the only classic films I have yet to see: It’s a Wonderful Life. I’ve always wanted to have the experience of being able to watch just one classic movie I hadn’t seen before with the girl of my dreams, whether she saw it or not. I’ve seen so many movies now on my own that I wanted to save this one for a time when I could finally enjoy a film with a sweet girl snuggling up beside me.
Now I’m wondering if I should give this up. It’s reached the point where finally meeting someone has become unrealistic. People my age have mostly settled down now and have families of their own. Online dating had been an unmitigated disaster with over 1000 failed matches, and if that experience has taught me anything, it is that I am not compatible with ANYONE.
I have pretty much tossed in the towel and moved on with my life, which is why I’ve been putting myself out there more often and traveling on a semi-regular basis, enjoying the single life as much as I can. But I had completely forgotten about this personal boycott of mine, and I’ve been wondering whether it’s finally time to end the romantic pipe dreams I’ve harbored for so long and finally watch the movie. Why wait for something that will never come to pass?
And yet, a part of me wants to keep this boycott going, unwilling to give up on the idea of love for good. So… I don’t know.
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Granted, I’ve only been single for six months or so. However, I’ve seen It’s A Wonderful Life, and I do not recommend that you break your boycott. Watching this particular movie alone, resigned that you’ll never meet “the one” is a recipe for disaster.
I recorded it on my DVR last night, and I plan to watch it when I’m already depressed and there is plenty of vodka and cranberry cocktail in the house. Like immersion therapy. ;)
LOL, immersion therapy. :-D I may actually miss out on watching it after all due to the fact that I’ll be away for Christmas, so it may get a one year stay of execution. That’s as far as it goes though.
Here’s a thought. You’ve probably heard about those speed dating events. Why not do an “It’s a wonderful life” singles get together.
Well, I’ve never seen it, so I know it’s possible to go through life that way. In case that helps.
(Online dating has taught you that you’re not compatible with ANYONE — on online dating sites. Who would ever have thought??)
Stay the course. You’ll meet the one at God’s appointed time. Don’t break tradition. It will mean so much more for you.
Immersion therapy? If you want immersion go stick your head in a toilet and flush.
Anywho, I would stay the course Linc, you have to realize that women are just as picky when it comes to guys so there are more single women around your age then you think. It’s just a matter of time that you meet someone.
Just continue going out and having fun and the next time you see someone you want to talk to…
JUST DO IT!
I don’t care how awkward it may seem and you shouldn’t either and who cares if it goes anywhere.
Consequences be damned, Linc! Consequences be damned!!
That’s how I live :-D
So next time you see someone you want to meet but the little voices in your head are screaming at you about how weird or awkward it would be, just take a deep breath, tell yourself “Consequences be damned!” and go do it!
Good advice, Tom. You know one of the themes of It’s a Wonderful Life is that your life was happening all the while you thought it ought to be different. Something happened and you realized how precious and unique your life had always been…
Putting off that movie message is pretty ironic.
Btw, you think that at 30 something finding a true love is “unrealistic”? Short life, huh. Guess you’re right…don’t bother seeing the movie about how to live your life while it’s happening.
I also have never seen “It’s A Wonderful Life” and I can tell you that it matters not one whit if you see it or not. If you really want to see the movie, see it. If you don’t want to see it, don’t see it. Besides, I would probably classify it as a family movie as opposed to a romantic one.
The thought occurs that not seeing it could count against you too. Say you do save it. You are sitting there, sweetie at hand, and you go to pop the movie in. You are so excited, you blurt out, “I’ve been waiting so much for this. I have never seen this movie!” Then sweetie turns to you, a confused look on her face, and says to you, “What? You’ve never seen this? What kind of freak are you?!” :-D :-D :-D Not quite the reaction you will be looking for!
Kind of funny to see the votes split down the middle so far.
I do think it’s unrealistic at this point, but then again I just saw a group of wild turkeys hanging outside a bagel shop in New York City. I imagine the odds of seeing something like that has to be equivalent to randomly bumping into a nice girl at a 7-Eleven, so maybe I shouldn’t toss in the towel just yet.
I understand the concept of you thinking of saving this movie, but Linc, it’s not a romantic movie. It’s quite dark and sad. It only becomes uplifting at the last moment. I think it’s a great movie and one of the themes is that every person’s life is meaningful, even when we are not aware of it. I have watched it many more times as a single person……….I found it’s message quite soothing to my loneliness. Somewhere along the way, you’ve gotten the wrong idea about this “Holiday Favorite”.
It’s not so much the kind of movie that’s important but the fact that I’ve never seen it. I’ve already seen most classic or famous movies and it always depresses me that I never got to share that experience with anyone special. This is one of the only famous movies left that I still have yet to see, and I’ve really gotten rather sick and tired of watching these things alone.