You have such a sexy banana

How about a little sympathy for the devil, Lincoln!

Well I must admit I’ve always been complimented about my bananas.

@14 karat: HA!!

14k, you are so funny.

L…what if a future gal ran into your blog and saw you bashing these other women? Would that make you more attractive to her or less?

Don’t get me wrong. I find your stories hilarious (though sad since they’re at your expense after all) but blaming a girl for not wanting to be in a relationship (and calling her names) doesn’t seem like a turn on.

I’m actually fairly introverted, though I hide it well. When I don’t want to deal with something (oh, say like breaking it off) I tend to go from normal, nice, kind girl to cold hearted beeyotch in about 2.3 seconds. It’s like a switch. And mostly I do it out of self preservation.

I know you’re impatient. I know it’s frustrating. But as I mentioned on Rachel’s site…the second you stop looking is the second you’ll find the one. She IS out there.

Oh…P.S. I don’t care about romance but hubby is certainly more than a pretty face and a sperm bank. The last time he bought me flowers was more than 7 years ago. ha! I think I bought him some once though. And I never require that we celebrate our anniversary. I don’t even want a card. Romance is so overrated.

L…what if a future gal ran into your blog and saw you bashing these other women?

Well then I’d be screwed 6 ways from Sunday. Fortunately though I keep my blog identity separate since this is where I allow my id to run ape nuts.

When I don’t want to deal with something (oh, say like breaking it off) I tend to go from normal, nice, kind girl to cold hearted beeyotch in about 2.3 seconds. It’s like a switch. And mostly I do it out of self preservation.

Ditto, and I’m not even an introvert. (A loner, yes. Somewhat sociopathic, perhaps. But definitely not introverted.)

When it comes to breaking things off with someone I haven’t even MET (and I don’t consider emails back and forth for a few weeks the same as having gotten close), I don’t think I owe them an explanation beyond “Sorry, I’m really busy.”

Keep in mind, Linc, women you meet through online dating (or even IRL, for that matter) aren’t responsible for stroking your ego or pampering your insecurities. That’s YOUR job. She tiptoed around saying, nicely, that she feels more chemistry with someone else.

If you can’t handle that via IM how would you deal with it face-to-face (and I notice you didn’t include YOUR responses)why should that be turned into negative commentary about her???

[I'm] putting this experience down as a hard lesson that I think has finally been learned. Most women don’t care about romance or friendship or companionship. They care about three things only: your looks, your wallet, and your personal sperm bank.

Wow, you gonna send out engraved invitations to that pity party you’re throwing?

Women DO care about romance and friendship and companionship. So much so, in fact, that when they don’t feel that kind of chemistry with one person they continue to look for it. Sorry you decided to take that personally, but I think she was rather polite about it.

I might agree… if this weren’t my experience on a regular basis.

My responses were very cordial by the way. I said I was perfectly fine with just being online penpals but reserved the right to be the living snot out of any guy she dated that mistreated her, and she LOLed. I’m not kidding myself though. She’s clearly not interested even in being friends.

There’s an element to this that I think gets lost on those who aren’t devout Christians though. I always expect those who profess to be Christians would be held to a higher standard, and it’s part of our orthodox belief that we are all adopted into one family, so even if there were no romantic attraction, I would think there would at least be a sense of camaraderie.

I think when it comes down to it, I’m not merely looking for a romantic prospect, but a romantic prospect/best friend/fellow worshiper all wrapped up into one, and I believe that’s what’s aggravating me so much about this. My expectations are just too ridiculously high.

Oh well. My dancing female robot should be coming in any day now.

ROFL I love ID! I dated an ID in high school. Seriously that was his nickname. LOL

However…what if a nice young woman finds you here first? *grin*

Just sayin’…you never know where love will strike.

I said I was perfectly fine with just being online penpals but reserved the right to be the living snot out of any guy she dated that mistreated her, and she LOLed.

Um…let me just say…if I were trying to let a guy down easy and he said this (or typed it) I’d LOL and then run. It’s just kind of … creepy.

I know I know…protective, chivalrous, I get that. And it’s sweet when it’s a close friend or relative. But when it’s a (basic) stranger who you’ve never met then it’s creepy.

And just because someone is a Christian doesn’t mean they see everyone as their brother. There are a lot of fellow Christians who creep me the hell out. And if someone was once interested in me I’d have a super hard time being their friend. I find it difficult to be close friends with guys anyway because it’s uncomfortable – that whole opposite sex tension. It’s always there even among the best of friends (unless one is gay or lesbo).

However…what if a nice young woman finds you here first? *grin*

Initially that was my thinking. Read here to see why it no longer is.

Um…let me just say…if I were trying to let a guy down easy and he said this (or typed it) I’d LOL and then run. It’s just kind of … creepy.

Dude, I can’t win. It’s like I strike out before I even go up to bat.

Where’s my damn robot??

L…what if a future gal ran into your blog and saw you bashing these other women? Would that make you more attractive to her or less?

Interesting comment. I had that thought too. The blogosphere can turn into a small world before you know it.

When we allow ourselves to get bitter about these things, we are granting full permission for the heart-breaker to control and change who we are. And why would you want to give away that kind of power to people who aren’t worthy of it?

I learned something recently from a personal relationship. Don’t lose site of who you are and your worth. God made you valuable, He formed your character and He granted you with gifts. (and He made these ‘rejects’ too dumb to recognize it).

*grin*

Did you ever watch Buffy the Vampire Slayer? They had a girl robot on there once. It was a funny episode.

I found it intersting that you want women to overlook ‘looks’ but then wrote about some “fat” lady and why in the world would you be attracted to her. ??? Can’t have it both ways.

It’s a delicate balance…let me just say… (and I can do this since I’m married) … I find your writing very attractive. As is your humor and sarcasm. Those two things are very important to me. And the fact that you want a woman to be a companion, friend, and equal is also very attractive.

One thing that isn’t attractive though is desperation. I know it’s hard to not feel desperate. I really do get that. And even if you try to not be desperate it comes out anyway.

I remember when I wanted a certain young gentleman to like me and I would do all kinds of stupid things to get his attention. Once I got over him and stopped caring what he thought…that’s when he started noticing! lol By then I wasn’t interested. Ha! I had found myself and didn’t need him or his attention. That made me SO much more attractive to him.

It’s your blog (obviously!) and you can write whatever you want about whoever you want in any way you want. I just thought I’d point out that the love of your life might just stumble across you in unexpected ways.

P.S. Have you checked out Rachel’s latest post??? *grin*

@CB: I think I was born bitter. It all started because my Mom just didn’t eat enough pizza for my liking while I was in the womb. Damned woman.

@CC: Yeah I think remember that episode.

And yeah I know my verbal beatdown of the Godzilla chick would seem hypocritical, but in my defense I’ve been attracted to overweight women before, so weight isn’t so much an issue as it is the overall manner in how they present themselves.

And let’s face it, when I have trouble determining whether they’re even human (let alone what their gender is) then you’ll forgive me if I don’t go jumping for hula joy. The human mind can only take so much ugliness after all before it implodes.

On the bright and optimistic side, you have 52 posts labeled ‘love’ and only 26 labeled ‘women suck.’

On the bright and optimistic side, you have 52 posts labeled ‘love’ and only 26 labeled ‘women suck.’

Dammit, I’m slipping.

@Linc: You wrote,

There’s an element to this that I think gets lost on those who aren’t devout Christians though. I always expect those who profess to be Christians would be held to a higher standard…

This from the man who just posted on Twitter:

Thank God for prostitutes. At least then I could find out what it’s like to be loved and cared for by a woman for only a grand an hour.

@Kate:

What can I say, I’m complicated.

Seriously … girls suck. I apologize for about 85% of my gender. I really hate when people can’t just come out and say what they feel.

Only 85 percent?