Where is my Belle?
Lincoln Adams | October 10, 2006 @ 7:49 pmA recent posting by the Ignoble Experiment got me thinking about a Disney favorite of mine, Beauty and the Beast. Back in the days when Disney was still making animated films that were actually good, they churned out this beauty (no pun intended), a story that centered around redemption and true love. I was too young to fully appreciate the movie when it first came out, but in subsequent years, I began to see myself in the Beast. The years had made me bitter and angry, harboring a quiet rage against a world that I felt did me serious wrong, just like the Beast. Some of it I brought on myself though, I admit, just as the Beast was in no small part responsible for his own misery. And yet part of that rage had to have no doubt been fueled by the despair that he would never be freed from his curse, as each petal that dropped from the flower brought him ever closer to his doom. It took the love of a caring, gentle soul to bring him back, a woman who taught him how to love again, despite his imperfections and grotesque appearance.
A gentle, caring girl, willing to get past looks and appearances so she can see the wounded man behind the beastly image? Yep, quite obviously a fairy tale. If you think this does indeed happen in the real world, then you my friend live in a fairy tale of your own.
This is one of my pet peeves about women too. They complain about guys being shallow and dating on looks alone, and then claim the higher ground by insisting that they NEVER do that. Nope, it’s a guy’s inner qualities that attracts them. It’s the damnedest, most hypocritical crap I’ve ever heard come out of their filthy, lying mouths.
Honestly, the mass of women today have proven themselves to be the shallowest, calculating, back stabbing, most judgmental heartless gobs of human flesh to have ever graced this planet. They will pass eternal judgment on you based on nothing more than the color shoes you’re wearing. They stare right through you as if you were nothing but a ghostly apparition they can barely see, refuse to say thank you when you hold the door for them, and only feign interest in you when they want something. God may have created Adam, but it was Satan who created Eve.
This mass of self interested, self indulgent whores of Babylon have made finding that gem of a woman who really is a cut above the rest virtually impossible. There’s little doubt even if I could find one, she would be taken aback at my beastly rage. Would she be able to get past that? Past the imperfections, the open wounds that cause me such most perpetual pain and grief? Will she be the Belle to my Beast?
Who am I kidding, she obviously doesn’t exist. And unlike the Beast, who found redemption and a happy ending, I can feel the last petal beginning to slip through my fingers, as a lifetime of unredeemable rage awaits me. Alas, in real life, there will be no Belle to save me.
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I wish I could do something (not football :D) at work but not work! I feel that way most of the time!...
@Christine: What, you think...
13 Responses to “Where is my Belle?”
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… Except you’re missing something. In the story, if you recall, BOTH Belle and the Beast had to learn to accept and forgive each other’s imperfections. The story was about change for both of them, not just the Beast. So the woman you’re looking for may be deep rather than superficial, and caring rather than materialistic, but she, too, isn’t going to be perfect. In fact, most likely, there are going to be times you’ll think she’s not for you, simply because what you imagine and how a real person might can be very different. But, I think, if you care enough about the person, the imperfections will be easier to accept. Meanwhile, it might be help to flesh out a bit more exactly what you think you’re looking for in a person. Mind you, it might change when you actually meet the concrete individual. But make a list of big and small qualities important to you, put it away, then take a look and see whether there’s anything about it that strikes as unrealistic or unworkable, and then try making it a bit more concrete. I think it may help you narrow down what you’re looking for and make it easier to meet people.
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Belle had… imperfections??? NO!! I refuse to believe it! Impossible!!!!
I’ve always thought that there was no such thing as a perfect girl, only a girl who would be perfect for ME, and vice versa. I remember writing down a list of qualities I’d like to see in a potential soul mate a ways back, but I have to come to gripes with the fact that good things only happen to other people, never me. I think i really am cursed.
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Nah, if you think that way it becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy. Don’t give up!
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At least it’s a prophecy I can rely on.
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But do you want to rely on it? Or do you want to create a more suitable prophesy, which is no less reliable?
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Do I control fate, or does fate control me? That question has yet to be answered.
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I think that if fate controlled you completely, then life itself would be meaningless. There are social and natural conditions beyond our control, but at least to some extent, we’re capable of exercising choice.
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I’m reminded of Curly’s (from the Three Stooges) famous phrase, “I’m a victim of a circumstance!” It’s sobering though how much I’ve been the victim of so many bad circumstances, almost as if life itself was conspiring against me. :eek:
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But the same can be said about everyone else! However, I’m sure you’ve been a “victim” of good circumstances in so many ways… Besides, if you continue to stay passive and wait for something bad to happen, it will, but if you resist and take control of the circumstances, then you’ll no longer be a victim!
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The Victim mentality is what Satan wants you to have. I lived that way for a long time, It destroyed me and it will you too if you let it. Those of us who aren’t one of the “beautiful people” sometimes help fulfill our own destiny by believing we are less than what God created. Our only hope is to see ourselves through God’s loving eyes and that is only accomplished by spending time with him in prayer and Bible study. I truly felt for you when I read this. Remember this, “What a Man thinketh in his heart, so is he”
Do your best to become what God meant for you to be, His little boy, his precious one at that. His unconditional love will save your heart from becoming hardened, it’s free. God Bless you sir.
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Irina, sometimes only God can control the circumstances.
Bill, thanks for the edifying and encouraging words. I didn’t know people like you still existed!
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The beast did let Belle IN…just an observation…
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One thing my Mom always tells me, especially when depression tries to wrap itself around me: if satan can steal our joy, he can steal our goods - even the ones in store for us!
It is so difficult to retain trust and hope in humanity after being so poorly treated and sorely disappointed. But not all women are whores (seems like it sometimes, but that is another issue!). Not all are shallow and self-centered…but nor are any of us perfect! I know several sweet, kind, Godly young women waiting for husbands as well, and they are older than I…I, who was an ‘old maid’ on her wedding day. They say some of the same things about men that you do about women - that men are shallow and look them over because they are ten or thirty pounds overweight, don’t have expensive clothing, aren’t interested in nightclubs and so forth. It’s heartbreaking.
I think you need to try - try! - to cultivate hope. Where women are untrustworthy, God still is. Trust in Him, let him break up the hard, dry soil and turn it into something soft and able to grow fruit again. Like Bill said, as a man thinks in his heart, so is he. I’ve met very attractive people who, upon my getting to know them better, became very unattractive - physically as well as on a personal basis - because of their personalities. It’s like an aura, and God’s children are particularly perceptive to it.
Casey is right…the Beast had to let Belle in, let her get close to him before anything began to develop. While he was prickly and demanding, she couldn’t reveal her true, normal self to him, and he couldn’t to her.
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